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Finding Her Engagement Ring Style: A Wink & A Smile

Whether you’re a secret agent or a straight shooter, check out our pro tips for finding her engagement ring style.

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Everyone has a personal style. Some are more understated than others and, therefore, harder to discern. Your job as Buyer of Rings, Proposer of Marriage, is to hone in on that style by whatever means necessary. Put on your detective hat and do some snooping around or straight up ask your partner what she’d like. Either way, finding her engagement ring style needn’t be a chore with our handy guide. Just pop on some good music and get sleuthing.

Finding Her Engagement Ring Style: Cut to the Chase

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Let’s start by clearing something up: the ring doesn’t have to be a complete surprise.

There, we’ve said it.

These days, it’s perfectly acceptable – preferable even – to bring your partner into the design process. No one knows the wearer’s style better than the wearer herself, so why not involve her in the decision making? Goodness knows, you’ll need all the help you can get when confronted with terms like pavé, halo, and tension! (That last one’s a setting style btw, not a headache.) By promoting your partner to Chief Ring Adviser, you’ll come across as the sensitive and considerate human being you are while eliminating much of the guesswork. It’s a win-win.

Now, the direct approach won’t work for everyone, mind you. Some customers – proposer and proposee alike – have their hearts set on a solo ring selection, culminating in the Big Reveal. To those irrepressible romantics, we say… read on!

Finding Her Engagement Ring Style: A Spy on the Wall

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Like all good detectives, you’ve been waiting for the right case to come along; a case worthy of your powers of deduction. Finding her engagement ring style is right up there with #WhoBitBeyoncé and that whole Yanny vs Laurel thing – except the odds of you solving this one are far higher!

Seriously though, your partner’s online and offline activity might give away key clues about her ring preferences. If she has a Pinterest account, it’s worth checking to see if she’s created any boards with sparkle-related titles or pinned any specific rings. Assuming you have access to her Facebook account, check her profile and activity log for any ring posts she’s liked or shared.

What’s the Buzz?

Even if she’s been careful not to leave a digital trail, she may have confided in her best friend or sibling. Once you’ve got a sparkly bee in your bonnet, it’s almost impossible to keep it to yourself! Listen for subtle hints that might come up when she’s chatting with her inner circle, especially if the topic of celebrity engagement rings comes up.

Finding Her Engagement Ring Style: How She Rolls

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When finding her engagement ring style, it often helps to draw on your own personal experience. Presumably, you’ve spent a fair bit of time with your SO and have gleaned an insight or two about her day-to-day.

What kind of lifestyle does she lead? If she has a job or hobby that requires her to wear gloves, she’d be better off with a setting that doesn’t have exposed diamonds on the band. Solitaire and channel-set rings are both practical options as they minimize the risk of the diamonds getting caught or falling out. A less hands-on lifestyle would allow for more exposed diamonds on the band – pavé being the obvious example.

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Spiral Tension Set Engagement Ring

If your girl is more Devil Wears Prada than Devil Wears Nada, you might consider a more daring setting. Pay close attention to her wardrobe. If she dresses to impress and won’t touch anything unless it’s by a top designer, go for something with character, such as a vintage engagement ring or hyper-modern tension ring.

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Baguette Diamond Engagement Ring

If, on the other hand, her idea of glamour is a pair of old jeans and a t-shirt, we’d recommend opting for something simple like a baguette side-stone engagement ring. Understated yet elegant.

Read more about choosing an engagement ring she’ll love

Finding Her Engagement Ring Style: A Sure Thing

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Six Prong Presentation Solitaire Engagement Ring

If none of the above tips speak to you, no one would fault you for playing it safe and going with a classic style such as a solitaire. This is essentially a single center diamond mounted on a plain setting. Solitaires are considered classics for a reason: they work with practically any individual style and never go out of fashion.

Once you’ve figured out your setting style, it’s time to consider the diamond shape. If you have even the slightest doubt about what shape to get, you can’t go wrong with a round cut. Round-cut diamonds are by far the most popular shape for engagement rings, owing to their perfect geometry and abundant sparkle. These timeless classics are tried and true, but if it’s a little more edge you’re after, a princess or cushion-cut diamond should suffice.

Walk a Mile in Her Style

How did you manage to pinpoint your partner’s style preference? Did you go undercover or were you upfront about it? Let us know in the comments below or over on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or Twitter.

For more invaluable ring-buying tips and tricks, check out the previous posts in our men’s FAQ series.

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Shhh! Keeping the Ring a Secret

With your sparkler safely in the bag, the next crucial step is keeping the ring a secret so you can successfully pull off your surprise proposal.

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Buying the engagement ring is the easy part. Keeping it a secret from your SO is where the real challenge lies. You’re up against an opponent whose curiosity knows no bounds. No sock drawer is safe, no bookshelf off-limits. To pull this off, you’re going to need an airtight game plan and nerves of steel!

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Keeping the Ring a Secret: Leave No Trace

In a recent blog post, we weighed the benefits of shopping for a surprise ring versus collaborating with your SO. If you’re dead set on keeping the ring a secret, you’ll want to ensure you don’t leave a footprint – digital or otherwise – that could blow your cover.

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Online

When ring shopping online, we strongly recommend doing your homework. However, if you happen to share computers/devices with your SO, make sure you sign out of all their accounts before starting to plan your surprise proposal. Likewise, if you absolutely must print something out (though we’re not sure why you would – this is 2018, people!), don’t leave that smoking gun sitting in your printer tray.

Offline

For obvious reasons, you should never use a joint bank account to pay for the ring. Consider setting up a new account specifically for that purpose (you can close it once the deed is done). Another option is to pay with an old credit card that only you know about. This one’s kind of a no-brainer, but you shouldn’t leave bank/credit card statements lying around the house. Oh, and don’t withdraw a large sum of money from the ATM; that’s a dead giveaway.

Keeping the Ring a Secret: Unboxing Your Bling

Who doesn’t love a good unboxing? Not your curious partner, that’s for sure!

At James Allen, we realize that having a mysterious package show up at your door is likely to arouse suspicion. That’s why we’ve taken care to ensure the outer packaging is as nondescript (read boring) as possible so as not to ruin your surprise proposal. It’s literally just a standard, no frills FedEx box. For all your SO knows, it could be nothing more than that drone you’ve been droning on about.

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It’s worth noting that our packages require a signature upon delivery. If you’re uncomfortable receiving yours at home or are worried that someone else might intercept it, we can help you find the best place to ship to.

Only once you peel back the outer carton does it start to get more interesting.

The first thing you’ll notice is an elegant presentation box embossed with the James Allen logo. This doubles as a jewelry box and even has a drawer for keeping your diamond certificates, cleaning cloth, and whatnot. Nestled on top is a small red box that houses the main attraction: the engagement ring.

Where to Stow Your Glow

Now, ordinarily, we’d tell you there’s no safer place to store your ring than the ring box it came in. Not only does it offer maximum protection, but it also makes for the most impressive presentation. However, there’s no getting around the fact that it’s still a box and, as such, somewhat bulky. Unless your partner is already aware of the ring, you might consider switching the box for something altogether less obvious.

“Is that a ring box in your pocket or are you happy to see me?”
– Your suspicious SO

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Some suggestions: a glasses case, a wallet, a briefcase. It’s fine to get creative with the container, as long as it fits the occasion. For example, a backpack or camera bag on a hike makes sense. A cello case does not. A rolled-up blanket or empty Thermos on a picnic makes sense. A suitcase does not. You get the idea.

Keeping the Ring a Secret: Conceal the Deal

OK, we’ve looked at ways to carry the ring around with you, but what about leaving it unattended? Here are some dos and don’ts for the times you’re not around to guard your precious new acquisition.

    • Keep it locked away in a safe place where your other half won’t accidentally come across it e.g., a spare bedroom, home office, or even a relative’s house. Avoid obvious places such as your bedroom, living room, or car glove compartment.
    • If traveling, pack the ring in your carry-on, never a checked bag. Don’t let a TSA agent blow your surprise proposal! Make sure it’s very secure and follow all airline security rules to avoid being stopped and searched.
    • Don’t leave it in your hotel room safe if your SO is likely to use it; instead, ask the concierge if you can leave it in the safe at the front desk.

Keeping the Ring a Secret: Your Silent Partner

If the logistics of keeping the ring a secret seem like Mission Impossible, our Customer Service reps are on hand to help you plan your sneaky setup. These masters of misdirection can be reached 24/7 via live chat, phone, and email. They know every trick in the book and can even suggest ways to distract your unsuspecting SO (don’t worry, we’ve trained them to only use their powers for good).

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Hoard of the Rings

Where did you stash your sparkler pre-proposal? Whisper it to us in the comments below or over on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or Twitter.

If you liked this post, check out our men’s FAQ series for more practical ring-buying tips and tricks.

Next up: How Do I Find Her Style Preference?

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Choosing a Diamond: Be in the Glow

Precious advice for those who will soon be choosing a diamond for their engagement ring.

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We recognize that gleam in your eye! No, we’re not talking about the way you look at your SO (although that is adorable). If there’s one thing capable of making a person’s eyes light up like that, it’s diamonds. Those pretty little stones you know nothing about, but are determined to get a good deal on.

And where better to start than our men’s FAQ series? In this first installment, we look at choosing a diamond; from understanding the 4Cs to getting the most bling for your buck.

Choosing a Diamond: Foresee the 4Cs

It’s impossible to talk diamonds without mentioning the 4Cs: cut, color, carat, and clarity. Together, these all-important characteristics influence a diamond’s quality and value. They are your new best friends. Get to know them. Go have a beer with them. Whatever you have to do.

    • Cut – This refers to both the diamond’s shape and how effectively it returns light to the viewer’s eye.
    • Color – This is generally something you want to avoid in a diamond, unless it’s a fancy color diamond (more on that later).
    • Carat – This is the unit of measurement by which diamonds are weighed and sold.
  • Clarity – This refers to how clean a diamond is and whether it has visible imperfections.

When in doubt, start with a diamond cut. This is the one area you should never compromise on as it determines how sparkly the stone is.

“I want my ring to sparkle less.”
– No one, ever

If you have to compromise on anything, let it be diamond clarity. However, try to avoid going below a VS1 clarity grade; anything lower would be visible to the naked eye.

Choosing a Diamond: Appearances Can Be Gleaming

Let’s be real for a moment, shall we? No one buys a diamond engagement ring for their SO without wanting to impress their socks off. It’s the ultimate declaration of your love, so of course you’ll want to go all out and snag the biggest, most sparkly rock you can afford.

While celebs are known for flashing ridiculous amounts of sparkle, you don’t always need to pay top dollar to enjoy those megawatt flashes. If you’re on a budget, there are a number of ways to make even a modest diamond appear larger than it actually is. Sneaky, we know!

One way to get more bling for your buck is to opt for an undersized diamond. Now, that might sound counterintuitive – how can a smaller diamond appear the same size as a larger one to the naked eye? By choosing a diamond that’s just shy of the standard industry cutoff points, you could save yourself a pretty penny, without compromising on sparkle. Consider a 0.9 carat diamond and a 1 carat diamond with comparable specs. On the surface, both stones appear to be virtually the same size, but look closer at the price tags and you’ll see a considerable saving on the smaller stone. Similar carat weight, less cash. Booyah!

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Another way to appear more sparkly is to choose a setting style that accentuates the center diamond. Halo engagement rings, for example, surround the center stone with an outer ring of smaller diamonds or gemstones. These peripheral stones reflect light off the center stone, giving it a greater presence on the hand. Halo engagement rings come in single and double halo varieties, depending on how far you want to glow… er… go.

For more sparkle-maximizing tips, read up on how to make your diamond engagement ring look bigger.

Choosing a Diamond: Appraise Where It’s Due

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A diamond appraisal is necessary if you want to get your ring insured – which, btw, you totally should! It differs from the GIA or AGS diamond grading certificate that comes with your ring in that it provides a dollar estimate rather than the technical info.

At JamesAllen.com, we offer a complimentary insurance evaluation on any diamond engagement ring valued at $1,000 or higher. If you prefer, you’re welcome to get the diamond independently appraised as well.

Choosing a Diamond: Color Outside the Shines

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If your head isn’t already spinning at 360° like our diamonds, we’re about to throw another curveball at you: fancy color diamonds. While colorless diamonds have traditionally been the objects of our affection, their colorful cousins are steadily gaining popularity. And because stones at the vivid ends of the color spectrum are quite rare, they’re more valuable too.

When choosing a diamond, pay close attention to your partner’s personal style. If they’re the free-spirited, artistic type, a diamond in their favorite color could make for an exceptionally meaningful gift. Read more about fancy color diamonds.

Choosing a Diamond: Own That Stone!

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Decided on a diamond dazzler? Let us know in the comments below or over on Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, or Twitter.

Don’t miss the next installment in our men’s FAQ series: How to Keep the Ring a Secret.

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