Should I Propose?
So you’ve been in a serious relationship for some time now, and started imagining what the future might entail and asking yourself “Should I propose?” Before you pull the proposal trigger, here are 4 important questions worth mulling over.
1. DO WE WANT TO GET MARRIED?
This may sound like an obvious one, but it can be so easy for couples to get caught up in other people’s expectations – often times without even realizing it – that they forget to ask themselves such a fundamental question.
Notice the phrasing – it doesn’t say, “Do I want to get married?” “Do you want to get married?” or “Do our families want us to get married?” – the operative word here is we. If both of you can’t agree on this question, then think carefully about your next steps.
2. WHERE DO I STAND ON ENGAGEMENT RINGS?
You’re wondering “Should I propose?” But before popping the question, you should clearly define your engagement ring budget. Remember that there is no such thing as a “right amount” to spend on an engagement ring – you can find stunning rings at every price point, from under $100 to upwards of $100,000. The most important thing to keep in mind is that you are the only person who can decide what’s right.
Second, you should think about how you want to pick out the engagement ring. Some people prefer to choose a ring without the help of a partner, whereas others love the idea of making it a shared affair. The good news is there are no rules: just as many people are picking out rings together as a couple as they are alone.
3. WHAT KIND OF RING DOES YOUR PARTNER WANT?
An engagement ring breaks down into two major parts: the center stone plus the band and prongs (aka the engagement ring setting that holds the diamond). The center stone is most often a colorless diamond, though yellow and other fancy color diamonds and gemstones have become more common over time.
Ring settings can vary greatly – from a simple band designed to showcase the center stone, to an ornate setting featuring side stones. There is also a wide array of metals to choose from – white gold, yellow gold and platinum are most common, and rose gold has made a comeback in recent years.
As you’re thinking about rings, you should take a few things into consideration. What does your partner do for work? If, for example, a person is highly active or works with their hands, you might consider choosing a stone and a metal that can withstand more than the usual wear and tear.
4. WHAT KIND OF PROPOSAL DO YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WANT?
Here at JamesAllen.com, we love hearing our customers’ proposal stories. Whether a remote setting in Iceland or a plane ride over the midwest, your proposal is a chance to celebrate the start of a new and beautiful journey. Before you propose, though, you should know both of your comfort zones with regard to public versus private proposals.
Does she love being the center of attention? Do you mind the spotlight? Would she swoon at a homemade dinner proposal but freak at a flash mob proposal? If you’re unsure, ask her friends and family to chime in – they’re sure to have valuable insight to help strike the right balance between your preferences and hers.
But most importantly, remember this: a proposal is a unique and special unifying moment – make sure you both enjoy it!